When sadness knocks on your door because the one you love has turned away, become friends with your tears. Sit in your car without starting the engine, and wait for the downpour. When it comes, accept that water is wet. Accept that your heart is heavy and that you don’t want to live without the one. Accept that you don’t know how to go on from here. If you are able, take pen and paper and make a list of all things you need to accept. Start each sentence with “I accept”. Go on until you can’t think of anything else to accept anymore. Let the tears come as they may, and as they go, let in Love. Let in Love where the tears make an opening.

Then put the list away, and find Green. Green alive and wet with rain, the keen blade of grass, green high in the trees. Touch it if you are able. Move slowly, but move. Put one foot in front of the other. Then find Orange and Red. A ripe tomato, a fiery carrot. Make soup. Imagine it is for the one you love, but be ready to eat it alone at the table. Pray for hunger. Hunger for an end to your suffering, for forgiveness and meaning. Then get to work.