8 09, 2016

Saying no

By | September 8th, 2016|Courage, Depression, Desire, Relationship, Therapy|0 Comments

Every now and then I have a client who doesn't show up for a scheduled session and I don't hear from the client again even after I check in. What I do "hear" though is a no. It may not be an openly communicated no, but it's a no nevertheless. A choice was made, and [...]

30 06, 2016


By | June 30th, 2016|Anxiety, Fear, Therapy|0 Comments

Last month I ended my job in community mental health after five years of service, so I've been thinking a lot about transitions. Transitions can be exciting (getting married, welcoming a child into the family, starting your own business), but even the most exciting (and "self"-promoted) transitions can be daunting. Transitions bring us into direct [...]

12 03, 2016

Critical mass

By | March 12th, 2016|Anxiety, Depression, EMDR, Fear, Mothers, Therapy|0 Comments

Do you feel you can never do anything right? Do you often compare yourself to others, and come out as the loser? Many people (you?) wrestle with deep seated feelings of inadequacy. Frequently, this feeling has a long history and goes back to growing up with a critical mother or father. Maybe their parents openly [...]

12 02, 2016

Rebel with a cause

By | February 12th, 2016|Anger, Desire, Mothers, Pain, Relationship, Therapy|0 Comments

Teenagers are not the only rebels. Many of us 18 and older are rebels still. We are rebels with a cause. We continue to fight our aging parents and try to make room for who we want to become. We are, it seems, stuck in a state of arrested development. Maybe you didn't get to [...]

29 12, 2015

Hurt no more

By | December 29th, 2015|Anger, Desire, Grief, Love, Mindfulness, Pain, Relationship, Therapy, Uncategorized|0 Comments

I must have been eleven or twelve when I saw this film. What I remember most vividly about it were the main characters: grown men and women actors with the voices of young children.  And not only that, they also behaved like children: they bickered, grabbed, pulled hair, pouted and threw tantrums when something wasn't [...]

13 08, 2015

Be noble, for you are made of stars

By | August 13th, 2015|Desire, Mindfulness, Pain, Therapy|0 Comments

If you have ever wondered why my counseling practice is called "For You Are Made of Stars", here is why. Nine years ago my family and I visited beautiful Nelson, British Columbia. Exploring downtown, we stumbled across a small French bakery, tucked away on a small back lane. We stepped inside, and while my kids [...]

11 07, 2015

EMDR 101

By | July 11th, 2015|EMDR, Therapy|0 Comments

As I am utilizing quite a bit of EMDR in my work with clients, here is a brief introduction to this unique healing approach. Initially developed for the treatment of trauma, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) has shown high efficacy in the resolution of many mental health problems, sometimes in only one or two [...]

20 05, 2015

Keep watering

By | May 20th, 2015|Fertility, Love, Therapy|0 Comments

  Did you know that bamboo grown for timber takes three years to germinate and sprout? Three years the bamboo farmer needs to water the seed, every day. For a thousand days, the farmer needs to show up and water the ground, not knowing when a green sprout breaks through the ground or if it [...]

9 04, 2015

Two inches

By | April 9th, 2015|Pain, Therapy, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Man's best friend has received much praise, and here is more to come, prompted by witnessing our dog's reaction to a recent traumatic injury. Our dog, avid ball catcher and squirrel chaser, managed to jam a two inch piece of wood between two of her front paw toes. Nothing was noticed at the time of [...]

3 04, 2015

Making it work

By | April 3rd, 2015|Therapy|0 Comments

Entering therapy is often a big deal. It can take a lot of time, money, and mental space, so of course you want it to work. But how does it actually work? What makes therapy effective? In this post, I am not going to talk about evidence-based practices and treatment approaches (e.g. EMDR, CBT etc) [...]